Welcome to The Regulated Child with Nicola McAllister.
Empowering Families, Transforming Lives: nurturing resilience through attachment-led and trauma-informed practices.
Navigating the storms of childhood.
Embracing the Beautiful Chaos with Resilience and Curiosity
Raising regulated, resilient children isn't as simple as following an instruction manual, but navigating the beautiful chaos with resilience, empathy, and a touch of curiosity. Whatever important role you play a child’s life, whether a parent, foster carer or professional, we are there to support you every step of the way.
Understanding the Journey
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Supporting Your Regulated Journey
In the emotional whirlwind and overwhelm of caring for a child, when the toolbox feels empty, and you're exhausted, we've got your back. The Regulated Child provides new tools, reducing stress responses and nurturing connections that help your child navigate life's challenges.
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Adapting to Changing Needs
Life is a constant flux. As we continuously try to keep all the balls in the air we loose sight of our own needs. At The Regulated Child, we acknowledge the hustle. Sign up for our online training offering accessible insights into your child's world. Or join our Regulated Community to expand your support network and skills. For tailored support, our parenting groups and one-to-one consultations are here for you.
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Changing Perspective
At The Regulated Child, we challenge conventional wisdom surrounding children and their behaviour, asking if true emotional regulation, social connection, and self-worth are built through consequences and control or by navigating the uncomfortable moments together with curiosity and support.
Structure & Nurture
Sometimes it feels impossible to strike the balance between being emotionally available to your child and setting boundaries. The Regulated Child understands the importance of predictability and clear expectations for our children to feel safe and thrive. Structure and nurture can coexist harmoniously, creating the foundation for resilient well-regulated children.
What they say.
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Nicola clearly speaks from a professional and personal perspective that brought experience and knowledge to her training. As practitioners, we all like to take away practical ideas for supporting children in our nursery and classrooms and we will definitely use lots of the practical tools and techniques discussed in her presentation.
Sally Ann Johnson | Robert Gordon’s College | DHT
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I learned so much during Nicola's presentation, about how the brain and body respond to external stressors, how the child's behaviour is a reflection of the child's inner needs, and of the importance of being able to regulate emotions, etc. etc.! There was so much covered in such a short space of time! I want to learn more, as regards my work, I am an assessing social worker who works with fostering applicants, and I also supervise foster carers. In each situation we always talk about the impact of trauma on children and therapeutic parenting /PACE. This session brought the concept to life so to speak, Nicola made the subject more "user friendly" and therefore I feel that I could talk to the people I am working with in a more informative manner.
Distressed not Difficult: Recognise & Communicate with Traumatised Children | Children in Scotland
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Nicola takes you on a journey of gentle reflection and discovery, whilst considering approaches and behaviour through a lens of therapeutic parenting techniques. Her expertise drawn from professional and personal experience is delivered in a straightforward non jargonistic manner which enables attendees to be curious and wonder about their own parenting. It culminates in being curious and wondering about how parents/carers/teachers can themselves adapt to provide the optimal base for individual children to grow and develop.
Ruth Caldwell | Fostering Service | Learning and Development Manager
Your Regulated Services
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The Regulated Child
Discover the power of self-regulation in children. Our course provides valuable insights and hands-on solutions to help children navigate daily challenges, fostering a brighter future.
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The Regulated Parent
A supportive resource for parents and caregivers, empowering them with knowledge and tools to understand and respond effectively to their child's behaviour.
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The Regulated School
Training and consultancy services tailored to meet the unique needs of educational settings. Challenging traditional approaches to behaviour management in schools, which are no longer fit for purpose. Our training explores an alternative model, drawing on neuroscience and child development to empowering educators to create learning environmets that meet learners’ needs.
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Embark on Your Regulated Journey
A suite of training opportunities that empower organisations and professionals in sectors such as fostering and adoption, early years and community engagement . Our training and consultancy services are based on attachment theory and trauma-informed approaches, helping professionals view challenging behaviour through the lens of survival and stress responses.
"The Regulated Community" is not just a membership; it's a community that believes in nurturing emotional resilience, building strong connections, and equipping children with the essential skills they need to succeed in life. By becoming a member, you're joining a like-minded group of individuals dedicated to creating brighter futures for children.